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I'm in a wheelchair. I'm not dead. So let's go have fun. Ok I'm actually a big sap into giving "thinking of you cards," enjoys getting a white rose, listens to all the sappy songs...if you know me)

My name is Jonathan and I'm a 37 year old guy. Before I got sick, I was a Theatre and English teacher. Most recently I worked in Special Education as an aide. I was used to being behind the wheelchair. Then one day I stumbled, it continued, Neurologists struggled, I did PT. Finally I was diagnosed with CIDP (Chronic Inflammatory Demyelinating Polyneuropathy). We are trying to stall it somewhat successfully now using Chemotherapy. I use a manual chair whom I've named Sue. She is decorated and pretty fabulous. My upper body still functions but grip is weak. My voice is also affected, but I love to go out, see people and just sit outside and enjoy this beautiful world. I'd say I used to be more about the obvious fun-a flirtatious bar scene, a sometime loner that hopped on the train to go to Lincoln Park and walk to the lakefront and watch the water and walk the path. I love the theatre but hardly went. I love reading, painting (not so skilled, but who cares) writing, being of service to others in education and mentoring theatre students in the program at my school. But I always thought there was time for adventures in the city. Or new restaurants. Or to lay on a blanket with someone under the stars. To slow dance with a guy as we listen to sappy songs or lay on the couch watching TV, but really enjoying each other. Then life changed. But it's taken some time. Thinking. I'm ready to return to the things I love or wished to do and I would enjoy someone beside me. And laughter. Smiling. Those things make me happy. I like keeping it upbeat. Yes, I get down. We all do. But laughter daily and positivity are so important to me. I love if I can give someone a laugh or some hope.

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Christian Preferences

Attends churchOn Holidays or Special Occassions

Wheelchair Preferences

Reason for being in a wheelchair:CIDP (I can go into detail if we talk) is attacking my peripheral nervous system. Though there is sensation in my legs or I can move them a bit, I can only bear weight for a few seconds at a time with supervision. I may be transitioning to a lightweight power chair as my arms and legs are affected. I can type (with errors as I'm sure you've noticed) but am what rehab would classify as being in Setup category (set out my clothes or food, etc). Currently I've progressed to Assist mode for daily living and am am trying to reverse with PT and chemo.
Has been in wheelchair for:2 years
Plays sports:God no. My sport is physical therapy

Cat(s)

Cat breedThe short furry kind ??? What the hell

Appearance

EthnicityCaucasian / White
National heritageGreek
BuildAverage
Height198 cm
Eye ColorBrown
Hair ColorBlack
Hair LengthShort
Facial HairShaved
Best featureSmile
Body ArtStrategically placed tattoo
Health ConditionWheelchair
My AttractivenessAttractive

Situation

Relationship StatusSingle
Has childrenNo children
Wants kidsNot sure
Housing SituationFriends come over occasionally
Living ArrangementsWith parent(s)
Wants to RelocateMaybe
Have PetsCat
Has a carYes

Education & Employment

EducationUniversity Bachelors
SpecialtyTeacher / Education
Job TitleSpecial Education TA. Now, disability.

Leisure & Fun

TV preferencesDocumentaries, Situation comedies, Re-runs
Favorite TV showsThe Middle, The Goldbergs, Mom. Netflix/Hulu: The Killing, Misfits, Orange is the New Black, Bates Motel, Sherlock Holmes, The Mindy Project. I usually save TV for an evening/bedtime activity.
Favorite movies typesComedy, Romance, Drama, Thriller
Favorite moviesOne True Thing, You're Not You, Bridget Jones Diary, Serial Mom, Romy and Michelle's High School Reunion.
Music typesPop, Ambient, Gospel, Folk
Favorite artistsI like a bit of everything except rap or Metal. I tend to go for soothing, inspirational, and shocker: love songs or ballads. Current favorites: Same Mistake by James Blunt. Rise Up by Andra Day.
Reading selectionFiction, Horror, Humor, Mystery
Favorite booksI love the Stephanie Plum series (Lisa Jackson I think). Hilarious/romantic bounty hunter series. I enjoy poetry anthologies. Fun mysteries that are a bit whimsical with no real danger. Currently, I'm reading Love Letters by Great Men
Idea of funI'm going to describe something I used to do, but would need assistance with now: heading into a trendy area like Lincoln Park. Walking (I use that interchangeably with rolling) down the street and finding a small restaurant or sidewalk cafe that looks kind of fun. Sitting and ordering a light lunch. If alone, people watching and just thinking. If with someone, talking or being comfortable just sitting there eating. Then continue walking to the lakefront and sitting in front of it overlooking. I just watched the water and if lucky, a light spray would hit me. Sitting until I'm or we are ready to move. By now it's close to five so I or we have a drink preferably in a beer garden, and if I'm being really ambitious, going online to see what plays are playing at a local theatre. Finding one that sounds like it has a good story and seats that aren't super expensive because we hadn't planned on a fancy night of theatre. But buying tickets to the show. See the show. Head home and unwind on the couch then head to bed. If with someone, legs you ntsrtwin d and holding each other until sleep let's us untangle and just sleep. That is one of my scenarios I've done to some extent, but would enjoy doing with someone. (And I can't forget karaoke!)
HobbiesArts & Crafts, Reading, Music, TV, Family, Theater

Personality

SmokerDon't smoke
DrinkingDon't drink
Social behaviorFriendly
Friends describe asSomeone they want to be
In High School I was a(n)Quiet one
Sense of humorGoofy
My great timeHanging out with friends, Trying new things, The movies, Relaxing, Going to a museum
Always wanted to tryNot camping exactly. But sleeping on a blanket under the stars with a great guy. But not camping-there needs to be indoor plumbing nearby.

Views

Political viewsVery liberal
ReligionOrthodox
Attend religious servicesOn holidays
Goal in lifeTo be a professor of theatre at the university level. If or if not, my goal is to work at educating myself as much as I can on topics of love and communication and applying them in my daily life to the fullest extent possible. I believe getting sick has ramped up those goals to bring them to art or my life.

Looking For

Must haveHumor, Empathy, Sensitivity, Spontaneity, Thoughtfulness
Look for in a partnerI am looking for kindness. I will reciprocate. I am looking for someone who will learn about my illness/disability and understand it may be a rocky road. Chemotherapy is the treatment that has some efficacy in stalling things, but I need someone who will accept that chemo will be in the future (it's a trade off. Three tough days for four wonderful ones). Someone who won't run at the thought that my time may be shorter or I will need assistance. But really, I want someone who will communicate with me (hell, even if you are non verbal and require an AAC device-I did-use it. Someone who won't shut down at the first fight, but not be afraid to say: you suck ass today and I can say: at least I'm not an *******. And then we talk. We don't leave the day angry or if we are, still say, I love you and will continue to. Or someone who is honest as soon as they know it's not working so we can both move on because time is precious. And if we get along but it's not working, say, I think we'd be good friends. I want someone funny (stupid soccer dad type jokes welcome). I want someone who likes quiet nights on the couch depending on our situations (I live with family. I need physical assistance). And I want someone who will be up for a night at a club or who will try something new with me like a jazz club. I want someone a bit settled but who isn't an old man that says well, you're 37 and I'm (let's just say 45), we're old now. No. Life doesn't end at a number or just because there's a stair or two (I'll scoot my ass up them if need be and I want in). I want a guy who sees a homeless person and says, here's. five bucks. And what they spend it on is up to them and their conscious. I want someone who laughs at someone when they trip, but then says, can I help you up. I want someone to read poetry with or who will sing me a song and dance. I love to dance. And if we both need wheelchairs, we can figure it out. But I want someone who will laugh at how ridiculous a disability or illness can be. On a day when I puke from the chemo, I'd like someone to rub my back, but also say, you're not gonna get gassy on me too, are ya? And all that I ask for and am looking for, I will reciprocate. And if I can't use my hands fully to cook you breakfast, I'll grab the bagel and cream cheese and knife and head at you (knife first to scare you initially) and say, I brought you breakfast. Now make it your own damn self. I want to continue to experience life and figure out how to do things, and I can do that alone. But it would be a hell of a lot more sweet with someone who is more than a friend but still a friend at my side.
On the first dateOk. Well first, my mother is going to have to drop me off and make sure I'm where I need to be (I think that might be every guy's worst nightmare especially because she does the lick finger, wipe face thing). But ok, she leaves (and I can stay out as late as I want! I'm 37. I'm making jokes because that's the awkward part. There's more but we'll just ease ya in). I would like a restaurant for appetizers and a drink (I can have a glass of wine if I skip my pain medication, but then you'd see me crying as I grabbed my back trying to reassure you, it's not you, it's me). But I think first we'd need to talk food preferences for a first date. If it works out, we can get fancy later. I'd like somewhere small, romantic lighting in case it does work out so we'll have a good story to tell instead of, he took me to McDonald's (which is perfectly fine for a fifth date if you're paying). But back to the restaurant, we could order two appetizers (utensils are a bit of a feat and I wouldn't want you to see me try until your eyes say it's ok), enjoy our drinks. Talk. And hopefully it's not too scary awkward, but some nervous laughter and a few silences are ok. No need to fill them. But relax and take our time. Depending on your disability let's have planned this together to start. It's not spontaneous but helpful. A good friend of mine (I was his aide in school, respite worker later, and then friend. He was a nonverbal quadrapalegic so I knew the day. I'd get to his house and getget him out of bed and get him ready and his family would leave the van. I knew we'd hit GameStop, head to Yorktown for lunch and shopping; but the day went easier when planned until I knew more of his quirks and could just say, where today? And he'd tell me on his computer). So planning is good I think at first-I'm feeling my way. But if that goes well, continue the date. I'd say dessert somewhere. Weather permitting (I'm ok with cold) eat outside. And a walk/roll through the neighborhood. It's a bit tame but I need to feel someone out before I say picnic in the park or train ride to the city because I am in the chair. My hands and arms are very weak and if something doesn't work out, I need to feel safe; like I can remove myself from the situation. The first date is about communication for me. That is the dazzler for me. If we like each other, then let's do the dazzling park picnics or laying under the stars or the smooth, easy fun if the city or even suburbs. But to end the date, if it feels right, holding hands and leaning in for the glitz and glamour of he date: the first kiss, where you place your hand on each other's cheek (where this will happen I don't know) and just kiss knowing it's late but not caring. And then making our arrangements to our respective home's. and hopefully not, I'll call you, but a straight llet's talk tomorrow to arrange for a second date. And we go home but there will be an inevitable, had a good time text because let's face it, I'm sappy, and I hope you are to some extent as well.